One of the truth’s I have learnt from interacting with readers of my blog is that, most men prefer to be with submissive women, even if they don’t feel comfortable admitting this openly! I have always suspected this, but my interactions have now convinced me about this preference. I get a lot of questions from men on how to find such women. While I completely understand where they are coming from, I feel this is perhaps not the right question for the following reasons.
I have observed that very few women will be submissive to all men they meet, but when the right man comes along, even the most difficult women will assume a submissive role for that man. Chutki is a great example of such a woman. A lot of men orbit around Chutki. None of these men would say that she is submissive. In fact, most would say she is a little too dominant. But with Swami, Chutki is totally transformed. It’s as if Swami is able to tap into a side of Chutki that most other men are not able to access. With Swami, Chutki is super submissive.
So it is something about the way Swami behaves and acts that compels Chutki to become submissive in her interactions with him. And it is not just Chutki. I have observed that most women are quite differential in front of Swami. Not all women, mind you, but most women. The thing is, Swami doesn’t really behave differently with different women. He is just himself. The women can either accept him for who he is, or not, it’s their choice. Most not only accept it, they actually enjoy interacting with him.
What am I trying to say? I am saying that submission has to be earned.
So when a man asks me how to find a submissive woman, I often tell him, the real question is whether he is behaving in a way that compels a woman to submit voluntarily and happily. If a woman is bitchy, catty and plain obnoxious with one man, don't assume that she will be the same with every man. When the right man comes along, this woman will happily, joyously, ecstatically submit to him and feel blessed that she has this man in her life!! Then she will not listen to her friends, her parents, even her own head. Her heart will compel her to kneel and the very thought of submitting will give her a dopamine rush.
From my experiences, I think a woman submits voluntarily to her man for just one reason.
He has earned her trust and she is convinced that he will fulfill her physical and emotional needs. Her submission is an offering to him because he fulfills her deepest needs in a way that no other man does.
A woman might also submit to her man, because of fear. She might fear physical violence or may fear that her man might leave her if she doesn't submit. The first kind of fear is really not submission, it is abuse and there is no excuse for this kind of behavior. A man who physically abuses his weaker partner, is really a coward and a tyrant who does not deserve submission at all. What he really deserves is someone who will stand up to his tyranny. Such men are really weak fearful men themselves.
When a woman submits to a man, because she psychologically fears that he might leave her, her submission is also a mirage. Sooner or later her fear will dissipate and then, her submission will also vanish. And just like a thirsty and weary desert traveler cannot be satiated by the mirage of water, a woman who submits out of fear will ultimately leave her man fatigued and bereft.
That is why I feel that the only way to truly command a woman’s submission long term, is to convince her that no other man can fulfill her physical and emotional needs like you can. If you do this, she will offer her submission at your feet willingly and joyfully for the rest of her life, even if you don’t demand it. I worship my Swami and crave to be his slave, because I am thoroughly convinced in my heart that there is no other man in this world that can take care of my deepest needs like he can. I really consider it a bargain that in exchange for total bliss all I give my Swami in return is my total and unquestioned submission.
So the real question is, how can a man get his woman to a mental state that I find myself in with my Swami? Because once you get your woman to where I am with my Swami, she will literally worship you.
If you want to find and keep a submissive woman my suggestion would be to follow the following five step process. My Swami is coaching his close friend who is recovering from a disastrous divorce on this process and I find his metamorphosis truly amazing. Charles now attracts really pretty girls and they treat him so much nicer than his wife used to.
Here is my understanding of what Swami coached Charles on and now that I think about it, I can see why it works so well.
The Five Step process to finding and keeping a woman submissive and happy for a very long time
I hope to cover these steps in the next few blog posts. Hope my readers find it entertaining and instructive :-)